Society sees women as riding a constant emotional roller coaster. Men are afraid of women they see with this sort of inconsistency, but what they don’t realize is that some women portray themselves as more flighty than they really are. Why, you ask? To see how you, their prospective date, reacts. If you can put up with her exaggerating her fluctuating opinions and emotions, you can surely handle her in real life. And that’s the assurance she needs. Basically, it’s a test. Here’s how to pass it.
If you approach a woman you have your eye on and she throws you some fussy comment like, “Who the hell are you?” believe me when I say this doesn’t necessarily mean she’s not interested. There are five easy ways you can turn her rudeness into a flirtation and show her that you can handle a woman who is a little bitchy sometimes.
1. Flip the script
Getting a little catty, in a playful way, is more common among women than men, so saying something like, “Are you flirting with me?” will surprise and probably amuse her. It takes a little nerve but give it a try. If nothing else, it’ll soften her up.
Few women are actually that rude, so just assume she’s testing you – teasing you, even. Purposefully take the statement as a come on. Respond with something like, “So you want to get to know me, huh?” She’ll be surprised and maybe taken aback at first, but ultimately she will be impressed by your smooth recovery and your playfulness.
Instead of taking offense to the statement, take it for what it is: a little game. Respond with a compliment and tell her you think she’s cute or feisty. Again, she’ll be surprised and impressed. She’ll also be taken off guard so you can start flirting with her real self, not her testing self.
Just brush it off. Continue with whatever plan you had. Or, pretend she said something different. “Nah, I don’t feel like dancing right now. I’d love to buy you a drink, though.” Don’t get caught up in her game; she really just wants to know that you won’t be scared away by it, she doesn’t need a sparring partner.
5. Play along
Another way to surprise her and turn the conversation onto a more positive road is to simply make the comment playful by playing along. “I could ask you the same!” meets her at her level of intensity and acknowledges her reluctance to engage you but turns the confrontation into something fun.
When you approach a woman with all the confidence you are able to summon up and she responds with a jagged comment, it is easy to get deflated. Just remember that she is testing you. Bounce back two or three times before giving up. Chances are that after you have proven you are up to the task of handling her emotional ups and downs, she’s going to be much more interested in you.